Letting Go of Sexual Shame
So I had some ladies whom I coach and have messaged me asking me about how to get over the shame they’ve faced after hooking up with many guys.
Our society has a double standard which just makes me angry. Men are praised (worshiped even) for their number of sexual partners, while women are silenced and told they are sluts because of their past. This is SO WRONG. And not the truth.
Sex is an emotional experience for both men and women. No matter how many people you’ve slept with, it has the power to make you feel unworthy of real, true love.
I know this first hand, if you’ve read my blog post entitled “My Story” you know for years I felt unworthy because of my past.
So how did I let go of this shame and ultimately manifest a happy, healthy relationship?
I loved myself first. I did things I loved. I traveled, I became educated, and I grew confidence through these things. I didn’t let any societal expectation or number define who I was and what I thought I was worthy of.
And in loving myself, I gave others permission to do the same.
So how can we practice more self-love in our lives?
I recommend this simple exercise. Think of the 5 happiest moments in your life. Now really think about it. It's easier to think of the 5 hardest ones, I know, but think of the 5 happiest. The moments you felt most alive, most empowered, most fulfilled. Write them down. Stew on it.
Now go out and go do more of those things. You are worthy of them all.
That's it for the hookup series. Thank you all for following along and I hope you received wisdom and guidance out of them. If you are interested in learning more, click the button below and download my free Healing from Hookups PDF.